DNA testing procedures have been on the rise over the years, with results being released discretely or openly depending on the stakes. Most health professionals ideally like to call them paternity tests, which makes more sense since they will always reveal the biological father of a child, usually through a cheek swab. Now that’s out of the way, let’s talk about how significant DNA testing has become these days. It’s as if a mention of DNA makes even the most introverted person shake.
It’s understandable because it’s heartbreaking for men who are mostly at the receiving end of this fraudulent act. One user shared his dilemma after receiving a positive DNA test indicating that his four children were not his, leading to him parting ways with his wife. With all his investments gone, he advised young men, specifically the younger generation, to perform this test as soon as the baby was born. As I read this, I felt emotional simply because he stated his age as 67, and hence all his toil and sweat were for another man’s children. This act should be punishable by law without a doubt.
However, until then, no matter the trust you have for your wife, please do a DNA test. Also, date responsible adults and be on guard to pinpoint suspicious actions in your relationship. I’m not here to scare you because there are lots of good women out there, but for your peace of mind, do this earlier in your marriage or relationship. We have seen male stars who have come out to reveal similar predicaments. Football stars like Nii-Odartey Lamptey, Anthony Annan, Asamoah Gyan, and more recently Geremy Njitap, whose two kids with his wife were reportedly not his despite the stunning resemblance from the children. Since the Geremi story, I have not been the same.
The crazy thing about this is that Geremi’s kids resemble him, too. As I marveled at this, I remembered a famous Yoruba quote that said, “Eni ti aba ba Gbe ile la n jo” (you will always resemble those you live with). These issues arise from infidelity on the part of women, thus breaking marriage vows set by the court or book of the law. No man would have denied him the legal ownership of the kids if he had not gone ahead to have the test on his intuition. Mind you, he had taken care of them for 15 years, so I could wholeheartedly support his anger towards his wife and emotional turmoil in general.
The popular statement “Fear women” is living up to the billing in this age because why would you hide this from your man and watch him crumble later on in his life? When is he going to find love and start another family again? As a young man myself, I only hope men like Geremi get strong enough to overcome hurdles like these and do the right vetting when choosing life partners. I know men can’t always be vigilant due to work and the ambition to climb higher in life, but please do this to avoid this fraudulent behavior. There are God-fearing women out there who have irresistible family values cherished by society hence, this is what I would urge men to look out for when their time in the dating world is up and would like to settle down.